After giving it a lot of ‘thoughts’, I finally gathered enough courage to come up with my first blog post. Before going any further, my special thanks to Bhupi. His blog post (‘KaathalAgi Kasinthurugi’ to be specific) inspired me to come up with a own blog space.
Though I have created a blog space months before, I wasn’t able to decide on a topic. I have seen so many people blogging their day to day activities, experiences etc. But I didn’t wanted to start with a casual note. After all, it is going to be my first. :o)
Once in a week, I think about some topics to start with and leave it then and there. Some of them includes ‘About Relationships’, ‘About Inception’ and so on. Ah, this reminds me. Let me explain the reason behind choosing this point of discussion ‘Attitude’
Due to some official commitments, I had to travel to Mangalore for a month. I was accommodated in our academy hostel. BTW, my new organization’s training academy is located at Mangalore. As such, hostel environment will be always electric with whole lot of new joinees (college recruits, in other words) and trainees. I thought its better than boring guest house/hotel stay and excited about it.
As I expected, my stay at hostel was getting better every day with lot of new faces and friends. One of the good things at hostel is Table Tennis. I just love it! (May be because I am not good at it)
On a fine evening, I was merely observing the players and trying to learn from their playing style. From the very beginning, I somehow kept an eye on one of the guys around TT table. He was watching the game closely and reacting seriously to each and every shot. After the first game got over, he got his chance and started to play. It’s kind of a manners in TT that the losing side should handover the chance to other players who are interested to play. If there is no one around, they can continue to play. This guy went on to play more matches and wasn’t ready to handover the racket. But others were generous enough and paved way for the interested guys. After some time, this guy has lost the game and everyone else has just got their chance except him (by now, he played more than 4 matches). I noticed another person standing there and eager to play the game. But our guy noticing that, rushed into the new game without even offering a chance. Within few minutes, following conversation happened there,
Guy waiting to play: Excuse me ya, what’s the point?
Another guy: 3-2
Guy waiting to play: you mean, 13-12? (second sets are sometimes referred as 3-2 instead of 13-12)
Our Guy: No, it’s just 3-2
Guy waiting to play: oh, you could have told me na. I was waiting to play.
Our Guy: We started already.
I was closely watching ‘our’ guy and sensed that he knew what he was doing but not guilty about it. The other guy who was waiting to play has felt bad and left the place. Our so called guy didn’t gave a shit about it but continued to play his game.
For many, the above narrated incident might sound simple. But it struck me badly. It was evident that our guy was least bothered to give respect to other’s emotion. Guys, I can understand this is just a game but I am pretty sure that such behavior will persist in other avenues as well.
On another note, if a person is such cheap for ‘just a game’, we can expect the worst from them when it comes to job, money, relationship etc etc etc
Having narrated the incident which resulted in this blog post, let me get into the actual point of discussion ‘Attitude’
Needless to say, we see such behaviors every day from various people at work, bus, market…
But I am going to stick to young ‘professionals’ of India for now.
IT Industry – it has brought fortunes to so many people (Even, I made a career out of it!). However, I have a feeling that IT industry has put our younger generation under tremendous pressure. Pressure to earn money, to perform well, to settle down in life soon and the list goes on.
As of today, Parents from every corner of this country are familiar with Computer Science, ECE branches of engineering. In one way, it is a very good sign that people from remote corner of the state/country are also now taking interest in their children future. But expectation are set at that very same stage too.
If a student does not get a campus placement, its considered a sin these days. I have seen many of my friends (who haven’t got a offer) not finding enough time to answer their relatives, family members, friends, neighbors.
In my view, fear of failure is injected into these young bloods at this stage. ‘Fear’ – it’s not a simple word. Believe me, it’s the starting point of ego, arrogance, jealousy, politics (only workplace politics please!), depression, and crime!
Let’s use the 12B screenplay here: Student with and without a offer letter. Since the student with offer letter is a ship at harbor, we can look at ‘without’ (So called society call them so) student now.
Already half depressed with failure interviews and too much advise, our guy will do anything humanly possible to get a job. Let’s assume that he gets a job (Thanks to Walkin and Off Campus interviews) and joins a company. Though he got a job, the fear of failure injected in his blood will prevail and make him feel insecure. If not always, at least often. (At this stage, I am not considering our friends who are least bothered to say ‘HARI SADU” in Naukri AD style)
Sorry for the very quick twist in the screenplay, now both the students are with a offer letter. (12B should be forgotten here)
Change – brings us lot of new things, both good and bad. So does the first job experience.
From the word go, we are eager to perform on the job. Learning every damn thing possible from the google search result, get new opportunities from manager, come up with excellent presentations, get accolades/appreciations, get onsite opportunities, buy some chocolates/laptop for family while returning, become a team leader and again start from the word go.
Some call it, being competitive. But I don’t buy that!
I do (sincerely, I DO) understand this is normal behavior from every human being to make a living (little sophisticated!) out of this world. But all I am trying to say is: During the process of cementing our position at workplace, we are losing the dictionary with the meaning of ‘Humanity’, ‘Moral’ , ‘Character’ and so on.
With the mounting pressure every day, ego and stress, how often we smile at work place???
It is a rare scene at home these days to have dinner together, interesting discussions during power cuts, seeking fathers’ view about a issue or concern etc.
Not everyone are having a good work environment. Most often we come across people complaining about their colleagues, team leads, managers and so on.
Come ON guys, we are changing every day and so DOES our ATTITUDE.
After working blindly for five or six years, we will end up with a lump sum bank balance, investments, our cubicle, almost lost personal life and of course, Ulcer is free of cost. (The cost it takes to cure Ulcer is an interest!)
I heard from a friend that Ramakrishna Paramahamsar once said: “When a person says that he does not have time to eat, he is at the heights of Maaya” (Actual quote might have a different wording, but this is the context)
It sounds right to me. There is no point in spending whole lot of years for earning money and then attending meditation sessions at Coimbatore. Let’s work for the sake of living and not the other way around.
At any cost, attitude towards life should remain the same. Respecting every individual we meet, enjoying every little things the universe has to offer, thinking from others perspective, accepting others mistakes, helping others in every way possible, that means a lot. That’s LIFE.
During the last few years, I often hear people talking about 2012, the end of the world. I am sure it’s not the case. To me, when the last person on the face of this planet forgets the meaning for Humanity, Love, Righteousness, it’s the judgment day!
Note:
If at all, I sounded of preaching sort, sincere apologies. That’s not the intention.
Though I have come up with this write-up, it does not mean that I am Mr. Right (as in Nike). I took this as a opportunity to rewind the memory and analyze my mistake during the last four years. And I look forward to start (again!) with the basics of LIFE!
